is everything okay? Send me an email if you’d like to talk :(

i'm getting harassed by my ex's friends and his new partner, and i don't have the strength to deal with it. i don't have any solution for now except disappearing.

Seems like some people got nothing better to do with their time.. sorry this is happening to you, and i hope they leave you alone soon. Maybe it would be good to also remove content mentioning any of the, cutting them from your life for good. Hope you can sort it out soon and you can get back with your website :(

yeah, i don't plan on having a blog anymore whenever i do decide to put it back online. i was foolish for thinking he was the loml.

i am so sorry to hear that, sending nothing but love your way

That's horrible, please be good to yourself! Let some one near you know so you don't have to face this all alone!

such immature people. sending a hug, kkb <3

i'm so sorry you're going through this rn ♡

This is awful, I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this <3

man wattahell, what an immature ass reaction :( sending you a hug!!!

That's so unfair. Ur ex and his friends/gf is definitely getting their karma soon. Sending lots of love 🩷

oh no:( i will miss you and your site so much, but i can totally understand why do you wanna take a break. i can't believe someone could just find time to harass you, who is not even bothering them!!! karma will get their assess!!!! sending you tons of love <3

people can be so immature and vindictive ): I really loved you're site and I hope you come back soon! Take as much time off as you need though.

im really not okay. i wish theyd just leave me the hell alone.

so sorry about that... they must have taken the time to trawl through your entire blog to dig that up. what a fucking creep with nothing better to do. i know atabook has a feature to block IP addresses, you could try that if your chat function has something similar

this is awful!! definitely follow what @limovars suggested and block their IP. people like that just waste time spreading hate :/ i’m really sorry you’re dealing with this, and i’m always here if you want to talk. <3

I had the same type of trouble when I started my site and and just ended up throwing away my guestbook and chat box. I'm sorry you have to go through this, I hope that idiot bumps into every table on the planet forever.

you're better than them, kkb. don't forget that 💛

This sounds bad actually, I gotta confess that someone stalked me online too. The best you blocked them as limovars said and move on. I hope you are doing fine right now...

Keep banning them whenever they appear. I'm not sure how the ban feature works for chattable but I'm sure they'll need too much free time to circumvent it. While logged in, Right click on their message and click Ban

god they left another msg

People can be so gross. I'm sorry 😔

that person is so lame!!! i know how seeing such things feels very demotivating, but remember that they know absolutely nothing about yourself and how you are as a person <3

was able to speak to my ex directly, he asked me to stop mentioning him by name on my blog (fine) and apparently his friends have been checking my website and telling him about it and he was complaining about it. got a bit of closure at least.

thank you everyone, and @kuroi i did end up banning them, hopefully that's enough, but i'm really scared i'm gonna wake up to more msgs again tomorrow @_@ i've asked some friends to keep an eye on it overnight so crossing fingers

Reach out if you need an ear or external support. Please. <3 Hope it eases for you, soon.

thats the worst :( my site is centered like this: the whole site is within these divs. Maybe try to add that and adjust the numbers as needed?

div style="height: 935px;" div style="width: 400px; margin: 0 auto;” div style="position:relative; left: -75px; top: -200px;"

hey, thank you for the suggestion! i've actually been working with those properties all evening and placing the properties in different spots in my CSS and have been trying to find the right combination but nothing is working @___@ i honestly just wanna give up this is getting so frustrating lmao ;_;

For centering, the easiest way would be to set a width for your main div and add a margin: 0 auto; to it. The zero can be changed to whatever value you need for top and bottom margins. I can't check your website right now but if you need any help, I'm available tomorrow :D

thank you, kuroi, for offering your time!! pls HMU at some point tomorrow whenever you're available and i'd really appreciate whatever guidance you can provide!! :')

You can't center a div, you can only center yourself

Ok! I'll leave a message on your chatbox this afternoon when i get more free time!

i've pored over my code an obscene amount of times, i've rewritten a ton of the code, i've partitioned the code into separate files for easier loading times, and nothing. i can't figure it out and it's driving me insane. i seriously need some assistance and troubleshooting help with this, because i'm losing my mind and i want my website to function without lagging!!!!!!

i've also had folks suggest that it's the CSS animations/keyframes, or the transitions/transforms i've coded, but like, nothing i have is all that intensive, so it really shouldn't be doing this??? i've seen people's websites that have far more animations and keyframes coded than my site, so what the hell is wrong with my code?

i guess i'm just going to try to rewrite everything from scratch (again) @_@

the only thing im seeing is this pic is "pretty big" (https://kkb.online/media/img/heartwave2.webp) i'll try some more digging when i can!

^^^^ it could be images, i started using https://imagecompressor.com on every image on my site and its made a big difference. You can also add loading="lazy" to img to lazy load initially off screen images

img compression and lazy loading is a friend (i use squoosh for mine personally but as long as sizes are nuked its all good). sadly loading times are a nightmare to sort out

thank you for all of the pointers!! i've gotten the heartwave image compressed even more, and i'm going to add the lazy loading to all of the images. i do want to just clarify that the issue i am having is with regard to genuine lag of the website, it really seems to bog down the cpu and makes me feel like my computer is a dinosaur. i don't know what could be causing it, i'm losing my mind trying to troubleshoot ;_;