solaria
4 days ago
Still very rough, but i got past the first section and have started talking about my own asexuality. I was in a very poor mental state when I started this page, but I feel much better now. As I continue to elaborate and edit this, the tone will likely even out and be less defensive/reactive. I plant to talk about my aromantism, flag opinions, and my relationship with my buddie!
solaria
4 days ago
i also plan to make the styling much nicer, this was mostly temporary. when I do that ill also add a light mode
ballonlea
6 days ago
In my article on my site, where I came out as aroacespec shortly after realizing it ( https://ballonlea.net/articles/demiaroace ), I didn't even mention The Discourse, because I, like you, generally desperately try to pretend it never happened. And it's so annoying to be on Tumblr and see people laugh it off as a "cringe discourse phase". Like you said! What was so cringe, the asexuals or the harassment?? (cont)
ballonlea
6 days ago
Like, I'm glad that people have grown up enough to realize that it was ridiculous to be arguing about, but it wasn't JUST "cringe". It was bigoted. It was a form of harassment. So many online asexual communities were torn apart because of it, and we're STILL recovering. Anyway, all of this to say, this was a cathartic read for me and very relatable. I hope you will continue to share your aroace experience with us!
solaria
5 days ago
Thanks for sharing your experiences too!! And God that sounds so awful, trying to archive queer stuff and running into That, oof :( and I'm glad I'm not alone in this, and that talking about it can help others who also went through it feel seen <:)
solaria
6 days ago
This is the most vulnerable and emotional page i have made here, it is very rough and definately no where near complete, but here it is so far. please be nice
zhongvie
6 days ago
augh i was actually wanting to find that link by coyote again + the timeline of anti-ace blogging by ix as well, thank you for including them ... god i was on tumblr during that time too, though my memories are very vague of that time period, but there's forever a root left behind that bringing up being aspec will just get dismissed and will forever be on the outside of the community bc of it
nomnomnami
6 days ago
completely missed the discourse, sorry to hear it really fucked with your head! i also get excited seeing other aces online. i'm glad you shared this, now i have lots of links to read~
strawberry-transneu
6 days ago
solaria, i am so proud of you🫂 i cant imagina how scary it must've been to think of all this and to write it down and im so happy you did that anyway. the modern wave of anti-ace violence has affected me irreversibly as well, and i think the ones who were hit most by it just learnt to be quiet, to hide, but we were always here. being aroace in this world can be tough, but you were always queer, you were always valid
strawberry-transneu
6 days ago
the ones who convinced us that being aromantic and asexual is something mockable or even irremeedably evil have never been better than then fuckin' TERFs currently leading trans discourse. In fact, they're sometimes the direct same people; and when theyre not, you'll notice they use the SAME fucking rhetoric. its the same
strawberry-transneu
6 days ago
for you to write about it, despite all the pain — im proud of you. you matter. im glad i was able to inspire you with my ace manifesto. you never deserved what you went thru. i wrote the manifesto out of feeling desperate and lonely, out of with to defend something i NEVER saw others defend. and it was worth it. aroace rights. im excited to see whatever youll add to this page but take your time,
strawberry-transneu
6 days ago
and remember, you can write as much of sad ranty things as well as positive and happy. dont limit yourself. be aroace and be aroace any way that it feels, because its YOU and YOUR identity. The right people will always accept both the rainbowy colourful positivity and the rants, they're both part of your experience. Im honoured to have inspired you with my own page 🖤🩶💜 !
bright-eyes
5 days ago
When I was at school (and this was in the mid 90s), there was a lot of bullying that went on towards people who didn't have boyfriends/girlfriends, etc. I didn't matter regarding the reason why - people were bullied. You don't have anything to be ashamed of - it's the bullies and people who harass who do.
silverheart
3 days ago
i feel your grief and pain as someone on the grey ace spectrum. i'm really sorry. i also must thank you though because i have never encountered the word aegosexual before and definitely feel seen in some of the ways that's described as manifesting. either way though just know you're not alone.
zhongvie
1 week ago
i'm excited to see it :'D esp as someone who is only recently realizing i may be aromantic and i'm still kinda chewing on it a bit
strawberry-transneu
1 week ago
YESSSSSSS solaria yes :) im so happy to hear! i will keep on updating my personal ace page a lot too!!!!! aspec rights! aspec liberation!
mism4tchedsocks
6 days ago
im still processing my own aroaceness but writing it down helps, and reading others' experiences really really helps :) cant wait to see your page!
solaria
1 week ago
in fixing the table styling in my dyslexia guide (my oldest guide!) I teaked the quide itself a little bit, the same idea, just a few more examples. Tweaked Mark and Joe's pages. Added two links i think. Gave my webcomic recommendations their own page with little comic samples! In doing so I also added a boat load of symbols to my symbol page while looking for non-emoji clock symbols
solaria
1 week ago
Hmmm it appears on my phone many of the new symbols in the misc section are indeed emojis, shoot
solaria
1 week ago
added my vampire fangs to my crafts page! I didn't know which category to put them in and I wanted them to be up top, so I did away with broad categories and organized my crafts mostly by reverse chronological order (not a strict organization so there are exceptions)
strawberry-transneu
1 week ago
This is my first ever time seeing a crafts page for you, im in LOVE with it! By the way i think in hindsight making orange yellow white light blue blue wouldve been possible for one aroace star bottle — but considering that craft is from good old 2021, i think you mightve had the same thought since then haha!
strawberry-transneu
1 week ago
The fangs are absolutely amazing along with all crafts. I love all of this page, aah! Makes me wanna make my own, even if im very bad at crafting due to my disability lol
ratlands
1 week ago
Those fangs are so cool! I think your denture lab should diversify its offerings.
solaria
1 week ago
Awe thank you guys!!! @strawberry-transneu I actually never thought of the sunset aroace flag until you said it! That's a great idea! And yesss crafts are fun even if they don't look polished and professional! This page has left out many I don't even have pictures of
solaria
1 week ago
@ratlands I daydreamed briefly of having my own little travel truck where I'd make people custom fangs but I'm most hesitant about the last step where i would have to put uncured acrylic in someone's mouth 😭 you aren't even supposed to breath in the fumes of that stuff. It would definitely be a very involved process with the patient overall.
solaria
2 weeks ago
haii, thank you!!! I was entranced by your site's black and teal-y green colors! Very beautiful color scheme ^^ I'm curious tho, what interests of mine do you not see elsewhere?
Added a cute new halloween bunny popping out of a jackolantern! Also fixed the link to chaoticgoods site, and added a link in the expandable section about pixel clubs, to a large list of pixel clubs. still slowly working on my ace page ^^
updated ace page, now has decent styling! the content is still rough, with much to be added ^^