I wrote a rather critical book review (nothing personal to the authors)

sorry i just read the Dear Evan Hansen blurb and I LOLed. I watched it a couple of years ago andim still baffled to this day why they allowed this film to be made

@sanguineroyal LOL NO don't apologize, I'm always down to dunk on Dear Evan Hansen, like it's utterly shocking that movie exists in its current state, like when you think about it and all the bizarreness comes spiraling back sdfsd

On the new book review - I'd heard a bit about this because it seems to be well known (or just well promoted?) in the self-help niche, it's sad to hear it ends up reading like almost every other self-help book for women. Genuinely can't stand the overall Tiktokification of books.

@sakana It's frustrating!! The title, blurb, and marketing of the book feels misleading. I went in with the expectation that this was going to be pop psych or science book, but it's a firmly self-help--ironic considering how multiple times in the text the authors touted that this isn't "basic self-help" too. And even then there are many better books in that genre imo!!

I muse about oversharing on the internet for a long time--maybe some of you can relate? :o

yesss!! i can totally relate. i love that we're all sort of on this wavelength of thinking abt how we interact w the internet... i just made my own blog talking a lot abt it too! i absolutely agree though that people get Way too comfortable sharing a lot all the time.. it can just foster these really unhealthy relationships with people who might read, n it gets so murky...

I agree with you so much, the way that I've watched the internet evolve has been so surreal. As it stands, internet culture cultivates unhealthy boundaries online. The thing is, at least years ago, it was semi-anonymous with pseudonyms. The stuff I see people post on places like TikTok with their names attached scares me sometimes!

boundaries a lifelong lesson fr... wanna ponder on this more too tho maybe just to myself >:-D have struggled w boundaries in other shit but have landed in a healthy enough intermediary state wrt being online...

sooo real what you said about oversharing being different from vulnerability + communication. i love a good boundary

@tehuan I saw that you wrote a post, I'm gonna check it out and comment on it ASAP! Ahhh that's so cool that we're in the place. The murkiness is a good way to describe it, it kinda reminds me of the controversy of "parasocial relationships" that has sprung up in the last few years!

@sanguineroyal Glad to hear we're on the same page!! Surreal is a good word to describe its evolution. Totally agree that some stuff that gets attached to identities is shocking. On my site I try to post that I would be comfortable with my IRLs seeing and knowing, you know??

@sneekrealm they really are tbh, and they change and fluctuate through your life too! I'm happy that you've a system of online boundaries you're happy with though!! ♡

@getcubed we LOVE a good boundary, they change lives!! I'm happy to hear this resonated with you too ; __ ; ♡♡

ah yes...i grew up on an internet that found boundaries offensive and suspicious, and it's still hard for me to keep in mind that we are not spectacles on a stage here to be evaluated or graded. it did a number on my developing brain and it only seems to be getting worse, now with real names attached. it's scary. good post!

@nenrikido thank you for reading, I'm happy that you liked and could relate!! It always blows my mind how your behavior is affected by what you're exposed to at vulnerable periods. If we were in environments where weak boundaries are modeled, where it's normal to reveal the most personal parts of yourself, then you might internalize and copy it!!

Ouch... I found this on the activity feed and I relate. Being online too young unfortunately let to oversharing too much as a teenager and its still online... It's always existed but it's gotten worse.

@hardmachine heyyy I'm so happy you found this, thank you for reading and checking this out!! Agreed that it's gotten worse. That's the scary thing though... like even if we delete things, there's the possibility of them still existing in some capacity @ __ @; knowing this really makes you conscious of what you wanna share!!

Since I had so much fun working on the first section on this page, I went back and added my "other beloveds" sooner than anticipated!! ; __ ; Non-comprehensive but there's still a lot!! ♡♡

forever thinking about kyo lol

@tillie FOREVER THINKING ABOUT HIS CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT 🤌

i love how you have basically the entire princess tutu cast except mythos TwT (it's ok he was my least fave of the main 4 as well)

@vivarism LMAO no honestly I love the whole cast but like... those three are the ones I think about the Most ;u; sorry Mytho!! ♡

The newest wing in my library has opened up: a wall of fame for my favorite character! While it's currently incomplete, I wanted to share what I have! Let me know if you like any of these characters too!! ❀ܓ(｡◠ ꇴ ◠｡ ) ♡

Wanted to do a lil monochrome moment with it too ...

your website is gorgeous!

omg cute i love the whole vibe!!!

ROSE DEWITT BUKATER STANS RISE

I love the character wing, but I haven't really looked around your library before and your bookshelf page is awesome!! I love all the books that pop out when you hover over them!! Although I had a MOMENT when I clicked through to the lotr goodreads page and the first two reviews gave it 2-3 stars...wtf. I never use goodreads and that's why but it just caught me so offguard

@angeleyesprings you're so sweet, thank you for your words!! ;o; ♡

@aliceblue ahhh thank you, I wanted only the cutest for my faves, ahaha!! ;u; ♡♡

@cheytopia I WOULD TAKE A BULLET FOR HER TBH

@jo your message made me smile, thank you so much for taking a look around my library!! ♡♡ It took some time for me to figure out the coding for it, but I'm happy with the result! I DO need to add some more books though, haha! (ෆ˙ᵕ˙ෆ)♡

@jo you're totally right that Goodreads be wilding--sometimes I'll catch a review and be SHOCKED sdfsd I'm considering making the move to Storygraph, or at least having the links here direct somewhere else (maybe openlibrary links so people can have a chance to read what's on the shelves!)

Today's the spring equinox and I wanted to journal for it, so here we are! Tell me about a beginning in your life right now! ♡ ‧₊˚❀༉‧₊˚.

i love this idea & writing! i've been pushing myself to create more art and try more artistic mediums over the past few weeks; it feels great to learn something new! the spring diary layout is so wonderful & calming too :)

@jeith you're so sweet Jeith, thank you!! Trying out new mediums is a great idea--in my experience, experimenting grows your creativity across the board! I plan on joining you soon as well--excited to see what you make!! :D ♡

Stunningly transporting. I can smell the blossoms and feel the breeze.

@cheytopia always happy to transport you to a flower meadow!(❁´◡`❁) ♡

Welcome to my curio cabinent, previously known as the "loves" page in my about. During my current organization effort for the cottage, I've been sorting through pages, moving them all around so they're less hidden/more easily accessible from my homepage. Kind of a pain right now but I'll be worth it in the end lol ;u;

I'm reorganising things too and I feel the same way! Like why is it so dusty in here, who came up with this floorplan?? Lol. We'll make it to the other side much happier though, I'm sure ♥ And I'm eagerly awaiting your favourite possessions page!!!

@vivarism that's exactly it!! And sometimes when you're in the middle of cleaning up the mess it feels worse than when you began ; __ ; We will, and thank you!! I'm still mentally sorting out what makes the things on the curios page distinct from others, but it'll define itself in time!! ⋆｡°✩

Just a few updates about what I've been up to! ❀ (seriously what's going on with Kate Middleton)

i got a bit sucked into the KM question last night... curious...

@getcubed Tillie, I'm absolutely enthralled by the whole thing. It's SO strange and seems like such an easy thing to resolve, and yet they've created a PR nightmare... it's much more the BRF is claiming imo!!

i've heard a little about what's been going on in passing, seems like there's a lot of weirdness going on with the british royal family right now... nonetheless, i'm glad you've been having a good time lately!

man, I still love this diary layout! Spring has sprung for me as well, literally the best feeling!

@clover thank you so much, it feels good to be in this spot right now! Totally agreed that there's a ton of weirdness happening right now--I'm expecting something big to come out at some point @ __ @;

@thegardenofmadeline ahhh yay, happy to hear that! :D This layout, along with my December one, are my favorite blog pages yet! ; __ ; <3 It's awesome hearing you're doing well too, I look forward to hearing out about your adventures from this season!! ♡