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swiftred
1 year ago
The button wall grows! Plus two new website descriptions. To those who I've neglected to thank, thank you kindly for following me <3
swiftred
1 year ago
I also updated the members list for bookbug. I'm apprehensive about starting this month's book. I know it's going to start out confusing and I have a feeling I'll have a hard time with it, but I've heard good things about the book.
missymjwrites
1 year ago
💖💖💖 once I get to updating my leaving page (slowly doing a big sort of revamp-lite to the site) I'll add your button! also o totally understand about Booking March book! it's very confusing at the start but I feel like chapter 3 is where it picks up (which wasn't too long for me at least).
phi1l1y
1 year ago
The little blurb you wrote for my site had me tear up.. a small kindness perhaps but a large one in my heart. Thank you, truly. On another note, I've been meaning to read Giovanni's Room, so it was neat to see it pop up here!! I struggle with feeling like I don't have "what it takes" to read "correctly" as well, so it made me feel a little less alone to see your review start with that similar feeling haha
owlroost
1 year ago
I feel you on being a late bloomer... I wish the world made more space for us to all take our time. For now, we really do have to take it.
soulbox
1 year ago
I love your writings. And yes, I feel the same. Or that I want to do what I do out of love and not out of pressure from the world around me.
bearlythere
1 year ago
ah, this one hits close to home. identity is such a struggle, but I find it comes when you're not looking for it.
ocrevol
1 year ago
I also have these tendencies + appreciate your candor in writing about this experience, it can indeed feel very alienating!
I used to have a similar problem. When I was growing up I used to make a lot of blogs which I would usually end up deleting. I'm a bit more discerning about what I put online now to try avoid that kind of anxiety that I've "said too much". But I can relate to being miserable when my gender identity wasn't matching, it felt like an entirely different life where I would dissociate all the time and feel disconnected.
swiftred
1 year ago
I'm glad this resonates for you all :) And thank you lots for taking the time to read my writing and leaving thoughtful comments. I'm always delighted when there's dialogue surrounding a piece
miela583
1 year ago
That’s very big, though, even if the amount if text is small compared to the whole page! It sounds like things are moving in such a wonderful direction!
cheytopia
1 year ago
Yay this is great news!!! Excited to see where this transitional journey leads you!
bearlythere
1 year ago
So great to see this update. Congrats on starting T! My advice: start taking progress selfies! It can sometimes be hard to see the changes when they happen slowly, but looking back at photos from a year ago makes me realize how far I've come! You got this!
swiftred
1 year ago
Thank you!! What great advice. I've been recording my voice so far, but now I'll also be taking selfies =)
swiftred
1 year ago
I forgot to put back buttons on two of my blog posts, so figured I'd fix that. I doubt anyone is paying that close attention to me, but it feels better just to announce that I may not update the site for awhile. I'm feeling burnt out and stressed, so I'm trying to give time to let it pass.
lizonline
1 year ago
Take your time and feel better soon! Stress is no fun, don't over-extend yourself working on your website ^_^
miela583
1 year ago
Part of my job is customer support over the phone, and I suspect some people expect that if they are talking to someone following the golden rule, it’s their privilege to take advantage of it. Being kind is still important, I think, but I agree with your conclusion here pretty thoroughly.
iztopher
1 year ago
Ugh, this is such a good post and such a hard lesson to learn, I feel you. My partner and I had to sit down and talk about this because I kept operating under this rule, but the way I wanted to be treated wasn't necessarily the way she did, and vice versa. I hope you can get back some of the kindness you put out into the world, even if it's expressed differently.
phi1l1y
1 year ago
This is a wonderful entry, one I (and I'm sure countless others) really feel. I was actually talking earlier to a friend about something related; our ways of masking our autism often comes out as extreme politeness, and for me specifically, submissiveness. It is hard for me to identify sometimes that when I laugh at a stranger's joke I don't find funny, or smile and nod my agreement, etc., if that is -
phi1l1y
1 year ago
- me wanting to be kind and acting out of my heart, or simply the way I feel I must behave. It's certainly a nuanced thing, especially when taking into consideration what you've said about how everyone loves and needs differently. Commencing my yapping now!
swiftred
1 year ago
It made my day to hear that you both enjoyed and related to my post, and it's nice knowing I'm not the only one <3 thank you for commenting. @iztopher thank you for the well wishes!!
swiftred
1 year ago
@phi1l1y I honestly think masking is such a bigger part of this than I give credit for. I've been trying to unmask in small ways, like trying not to be overly emotive, or compulsively smile all the time at everyone and, like you said, not laugh at unfunny things, and I realize just how deeply ingrained it is!! You're right that it's hard to separate. Thank you again for sharing your thoughts!
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