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colexdev updated Cole's Personal Site

1 year ago

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manyface colexdev

1 year ago

Your photography is wonderful! I really enjoyed looking through your page.

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colexdev 1 year ago

Thank you so much. That means a lot. Your photography is amazing. I am in love with the old school film look.

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manyface 1 year ago

Ah, thank you so much! I appreciate that, we need to take more photos with our film camera...

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colexdev yhtsyl

1 year ago

Your photography is stunning. The best I have seen on Neocities so far.

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yhtsyl 1 year ago

thank you so much!! your photos are beautiful :-)

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colexdev

1 year ago

New post: https://coleroberts.dev/posts/sharing_ideas

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elilenti 1 year ago

This is a topic that has often weighed on my mind when giving advice to friends. What do you do when they're not receptive? I think one should be gentle but firm in their answer. Do not press upon the person to accept your solutions or ideas right at that moment. But if the topic comes up another day, don't censor yourself, but repeat the same answer you gave before with the same delicacy.

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elilenti 1 year ago

From my own experience, I tend to have "epiphanies" when it come to solving the major problems in my life. I might already know the answer logically, but it takes a bit for me to emotionally accept. (And this acceptance feels like an epiphany to me.) The idea has to germinate in my head a bit, as you say. I think other people probably work similarly, and need time to sit and chew on the information you gave them in t

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elilenti 1 year ago

them in the back of their heads. Especially more emotional sorts like myself.

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elilenti 1 year ago

We can hope that after handling advice this way to others that they take it, and the solution works out in their favor. Some might never try out your ideas though. Too stuck in their own problems, making them self-absorbed. If a sheep is solely fixated on the sheen of his own coat, he'll miss out on how other sheep beautify theirs.

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elilenti 1 year ago

Though, I think good people who are explorative and genuinely open to new ideas and solutions won't have this problem. They will at least consider and play with your ideas a bit and see if they like them or not.

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elilenti 1 year ago

Be careful with concealing how you truly feel about an idea with others. It might be wise to do this a bit if there's a disagreement, to maintain the relationship you have with the other person. But you shouldn't have to do this too much. In my experience, when I concealed how I truly felt about situations or ideas too much, it made me think ill of myself.

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elilenti 1 year ago

Like my thoughts were too strange for people, and that thinking killed my confidence. Really, I just needed to find better company. I'm glad your Dad was receptive of your ideas. The fact that he was willing to reconsider after a bit of time says a lot of good about him.

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colexdev 1 year ago

@elilenti I agree with what you are saying about "epiphanies". I have been calling them "revelations" to myself but I think that your word is much better. I have been thinking about writing about them as well.

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colexdev 1 year ago

I love your idea about the sheep. What a wonderful analogy that also relates back to the one I shared in the post. I am going to save that one. Also I noticed you saying to be careful about concealing your feelings. I may have come across the wrong way. I didn't meant to say that one should hide how they feel, just not force ideas if someone is not wanting to listen. Which part comes off as concealing the ideas?

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colexdev 1 year ago

Yeah it can be tough to find people that share your same thoughts and ideas or people that will be open to hearing them. Just keep on looking for that good company. I believe that it is worth the search.

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colexdev updated Cole's Personal Site

1 year ago

posts/work.html

posts/why_we_sleep.html

posts/sugar.html

posts/sharing_ideas.html

posts/notebook.html

posts/know_ourselves.html

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colexdev updated Cole's Personal Site

1 year ago

books.html

quotes.html

updates.html

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colexdev elilenti

1 year ago

I was going back through your old thought reel and had a question. You say that you would like to live a simple life in a cottage away from technology but it is only for the rich. Why do you think so? If you can live frugally I think it is doable. Land can be fairly inexpensive, you can build a small place or buy land with a small place on it. This is something I have been looking into as it interests me as well.

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elilenti 1 year ago

I saw your message, I just want to put some care in my response. :)

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colexdev 1 year ago

Sounds good! No rush, I appreciate it :)

colexdev

1 year ago

Neocities has been good to me. I have found some great sites on here and talked with some lovely people. But does anyone else dislike the metrics? The follower number, view count and likes on updates/posts. One reason I avoid social media is to avoid having a number correlated with my worth. I was just thinking about it recently and was curious on what opinions others had.

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elilenti 1 year ago

i don't think the view count is accurate. a lot, a lot of it is bots. im probably not the popular opinion on the site but i enjoy having followers and likes. i think there's a way to turn off the like and follower stuff in ur settings tho

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colexdev updated Cole's Personal Site

1 year ago