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chattable
8 months ago
Y'know I happen to know a really cool tool that can add a highly customizable discord-like chat to your site, if you're in the market
ophanimkei
9 months ago
Answer to this question also provides context for slow art and lack of updates. The Disability is Worsening!
strawberry-gashes
9 months ago
i'm so sorry about the worsening condition. being disabled in the us is such a struggle. i think your take on it is really positive though! i hope it doesn't sound weird to say it inspired me and made me feel Better about less output re: my disabilities as well ;w;
expressionless
8 months ago
there's no pressure to write if you don't want to :> we're here for you no matter where your journey takes you and no matter how you choose to express it. Good luck axy <3
honeybread
9 months ago
this is deeply relatable; i often ask what to do with that drive to create even if it will never be "appreciated." i suppose... just to create anyway!
vivarism
9 months ago
"I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femaleness and my femininity. And I want to be respected in all of my femaleness because I deserve to be." — Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
vivarism
9 months ago
Also THANK YOU to everyone who comments on, interacts with, or even just silently reads my updates... I have been too shy to reply 🥺💕 It's my aim to get back on NC soon-- assuming this blogpost doesn't obliterate the small web lol
birdwrongs
9 months ago
If I may say this gently—I'm glad you found a way to be you that you're happy with! But not everyone has the same experiences; so many of my friends are genuinely happier having transitioned to the gender they identify with. Less depressed, more able to engage with the world, more comfortable expressing themselves.
birdwrongs
9 months ago
You mention that it's not bad that you developed early, it's bad that boys and men harassed you over it—and the reason why trans depression and suicide rates are so high is often because of the way that society treats trans people. I think those experiences could be ones to connect over, rather than a reason to dismiss other people's experiences of gender. Just food for thought.
vivarism
9 months ago
Dear Birdwrongs, thank you for your gentleness. But I must point out that you can enjoy all the gender nonconformity of a trans identity without believing and spreading misogynistic lies. If those friends of yours are "happier" espousing a cultlike ideology, I'd guess they're ignorant or in denial about sexism, or perhaps one of the rare Evil Women who gets off on misogyny and child abuse
vivarism
9 months ago
Bcus that's what the trans community promotes. Once you see it, you cannot UNsee it, and that's why I keep talking about it. Maybe I didn't talk about it ENOUGH, honestly... Basically: Drop the T, just be GNC! There is nothing inferior or incorrect about being female
birdwrongs
9 months ago
my friends are quite aware of sexism, in fact! none of them made their decisions about their gender based on stereotypes—I know femme trans men and butch trans women and plenty of others with unique relationships to gender. and, well—they all so frequently disagree on things that it's hard to think of them as a cult, ha ha.
birdwrongs
9 months ago
As a cis lesbian fully happy with where I am genderwise, I've found a lot of solidarity and kinship with trans people. Of course, I don't know the people you've met, but you haven't met my friends, either, and those are some big assumptions.
birdwrongs
9 months ago
It's perfectly possible to care for the rights and wellness of women while not being one or not having been born one, and seeing that in the people I know gives me hope for the world and for the way things could be. I hope you can see that hope in people, too, even if they don't relate to gender the way you do.
cabbagesorter
9 months ago
I've been inactive lately because life got in the way and im extremely exhausted but ill always stand by you flonne, this was beautifully written!!! love u
vivarism
9 months ago
As usual, I had too much to say to respond with just comments. Let's all be mindful of other's feeds and, if you are also feeling wordy, link a text file or your own blog, or post a new message directly to my profile to start a new comment thread. https://vivarism.net/diary/25/mini.txt
vaultofsky
8 months ago
Thanks so much for writing this. It's so important; especially sinister is how this movement is advertised to young girls. I also experimented with being NB, in retrospect I wanted to feel stronger and be released from social expectation. Realized pretending that I wasn't a girl didn't change anything and I can still be as masc as I want otherwise. I'm just glad I didn't go on T like my friends, who now regret it.
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I try not to care too much about inconsequential things. My website is for myself and my views, which I know aren't very radical anyway. I think that if people have critical thinking skills, they don't need to be too paranoid about the views they espouse. Unfortunately, critical thinking skills seem pretty rare
I think one should learn to differentiate those opinions and perceptions we care about and (metaphorically) invite them to sit right next to us when we write. We should be open to their corrections, suggestions and points of view. There is a great value in speaking with those with whom we disagree. But I wouldn’t invite them to write with me. If you try to make everyone happy you won’t ever write a single word.
Interesting, thank you.
Freedom of self-expression is an important value. Being able to perceive different points of view makes you able to understand the diversity of humans... Being radical or being neutral, expressing negative or positive feelings, writing about this or that subject, deciding to open up about yourself or staying apart ; are your personal choices.
However, I believe words have powers (weight) and this is why it's important to choose them well to reflect the exact idea you want to tell.
But I also think, one of the most important value when we are in communication with others is : respect. If you decide to defend yourself about anything : aren't you harming someone ?