suboptimal one on his partymaxxing arc... the brother sperging out feels too familiar

absolutely MAD story. thats so... entertaining i guess. even though it was probably stressful. i find it interesting how to most chaotic and bad things usually end up being the most interesting, whereas things without problems/drama usually end up being snoozefests when you look back on them. people love dramatic stories! it's peak! so please keep suffering for the sake of humani

i feel like your take on mygo and then its successor series ave mujica would be interesting. they're relatively deep shows with stuff to say but they're messy and kinda held back by genre constraints, i think (totally not because it's 30% of my personality at this point!)

oh yeah i almost watched ave mujica last month after reading an intriguing review of it

it's time to make your own anime studio and rescue us from the isekai dark age (´･ω･`)

unencrypted for the sake of Scientific Transparency

hell yeah

too real. scary real. good stuff

any thoughts on duolicious? or is it just another one of The Apps

counts as "online"

i am very optimistic about social atomization, bullish even. buying long futures for rugged individualism. (disclosure: i have a gf)

i feel like 90% of why i have a girlfriend and many platonic female friends is that i grew up with a sister roughly the same age as me. i got more comfortable talking to her and her friends than boys at school, and now years later i have no idea how to be friends with other men in real life. i feel like your situation of lots of friends but no gf is probably healthier though

re: 16, I think there could be potential in this if you broaden it a little. live music is one of the few interests that transcends the gender divide. if you replace "learn an instrument" with DJing or making mixes, this gives A LOT of opportunities to talk to new people of all genders. even just being a "noise musician" (which has requires no qualifications) has introduced me to a lot of people

i dunno, one of my friends is a house/trance/techno dj and i went to one of his events, it was almost all dudes, somebody else even commented to me about "the ratio"

then maybe it is just shanghai that is like this! i never went outside back when i lived in america

oh, i know, what's actually going on is that i only go to music stuff my girlfriend djs at, which are automatically more likely to have lots of women. so the gender divide strikes again! i still feel like there is way to flip the divide on its head and use it to your advantage somehow...

the landscape is pretty brutal; even if you manage a successful connection we haven't even begun to discuss what happens after, if there's even a future there. If one Really Wants It, signing up for some "class" whether yoga, cooking, painting, etc, seems to be the easiest way to infiltrate the gender divide

i believe in you!! i'm a cis lesbian so bit of a different thing, but I met my wife at a party in college... and previous girlfriends all through DIY shows, school clubs, and "nightlife" events. Pro tip if you go this route: don't go for the ones binge drinking themselves to death in the corner :)

i love referring to a person you talk about a lot as a "recurring character." it's like me calling parts of my life "arcs" ijofiojaoijf this is so peak

suboptimalism, if its any help, i find you charming and im a girl .... you would be a big hit if autistic girls went outside of their rooms more often

why do you even care about fixing your gender-friend-balance in the first place? why do you want a girlfriend? why does it matter? i feel like those are the important things here. maybe it just Doesn't Matter which is why nobody wants it. they're just trna make up reasons why they do cuz Social Normality. i think if you have to make a list this long of ideas, you probably misunderstand the subject matter /srs

also for what it's worth, i kinda assumed you were a woman in the first place. something just about the vibes of the site design is very sligltly feminine. idk i guess i'm sexist oh no

re 21: i'm so sorry but that's my genuine suggestion. i, an engaged gay man, go to salsa dance classes now and have the opposite problem to you in that i simply want to dance and maybe make friends, while it feels like a lot of people there are on the pull. there's frequently not enough men for all the women in the room to have partners. don't knock it til you try it??

(having said that, death to anyone who goes to social dance purely to be a creep. cultivation of Good Communal Vibes is vital)

@ghostscape there was a guy in my phd cohort who FIRST THING joined a ballroom class to meet girls. i always wondered if that actually works. surely the girls can tell who's there just to meet girls?

the way "meeting through friends" is somehow more deranged to you than "just hanging around a college campus" LOL

@sorbier I'd guess that if you're making a nuisance of yourself, then yeah, people will get fed up. but if you're genuinely trying at all with the dancing (and if you're not, presumably it's just a really frustrating and boring time for you), you'll automatically have a legitimate point of contact with anyone there and can bond over that. plus it's fun for its own sake!

my take is it's fine if you go primarily to try to date people, as long as you're not a dick to the other people there and actually try at the dancing. it is a social thing after all! people go because they want to dance *and* meet people

it kind of surprises me to hear that you have almost no platonic female friends bc i thought u were a woman when i first found your site. anyways a few comments..one of my friends is really into rock climbing and seems to have just as much trouble meeting girls, youd think itd help but guess not?

i have a girlfriend but i honestly think id be in the same situation if i hadnt lucked out and met her in high school computer science. im a lesbian tho so it's probably different

I have done similar research (e.g.: https://letslearntogether.neocities.org/scispirit/Sexuality/attraction01 ). Generally, if we start doing things simply to get the attention of others, then we may end up attracting people who are in love with the fantasy that we are projecting instead of who we actually are.

Personally, I'd much rather be with few people that I can identify with on a deep level, rather than have many superficial relationships. What do you *genuinely* like doing? Look for people in those contexts and then get to know them better. You will already have some common ground as well.

@letslearntogether I think what a lot of people genuinely like doing is talking with people they find interesting, and often what makes a person interesting has little to do with their concrete interests. Trying new things doesn’t have to be about attracting attention or projecting some fantasy self — it’s just a way of being in new situations and starting conversations with people you wouldn’t have met otherwise.

wow, this is the most Discourse i've seen in neocities comments in a long time... sorry if i misled anyone with my site design, tough to be a guy who likes cute things, i had thought the content would makes things clear tho. however, i have also designed an alternate version that's more masculine

my comment grew legs... https://labyrinth-limbo.neocities.org/learning#girls2025

i know this is an older post... but don't go rock climbing you're only gonna meet lesbians

instead of watching the minecraft movie, why not read my old minecraft memoir? a recent reader convinced me it was salvageable

i really wanna read but i'm worried it's going to upset me as i don't really like thinking about my Sad And Long-Lost Minecraft Memories

chestists were truly the modern pharisees...

"you're driving someone in your group crazy over this joke you call ICU. good luck!" "it's called the ICI" lmao

The substack update was funny but I sighed in relief when your normal layout came back, lol

OMG!!!!! i get so excited when ppl mention biloxi/gulfport!!! my moms family lives there + i partially grew up there!! so cool to hear ur experience/how it is to someone visiting.

when do i get to find out what happened bitch??

as a free trial i'll give out the password for one post... but which one...

Once I called your writing "vaguely substackesque" & wanted to apologize for the transgression lol

it's true tho

this is now the most alarming website design i've ever seen...even the favicon is cursed.

this is hilarious