The Bone Folder

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I got your letter today! Will reply as existential crises allow.
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skep's avatar skep 1 week ago

That's reasonable, I'll check the mailbox in a couple years

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kolala's avatar kolala 1 week ago

Late to your original question, but how about using labels to be as a safe space? For instance, I have my pronouns in my site even though it doesn't make a difference to me. I'm a cis woman, so the default she/her works. And even if someone misgenders me, I wouldn't care because I have never suffered from it.

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kolala's avatar kolala 1 week ago

So in that case, rather than being a defensive thing, it's just to tell others that I'll respect their pronouns if they ever interacted with me. To try to make it safer for those who might be dealing with discrimination in other places. I rarely interact with others, but if there's a chance to make things a bit less hostile then it's worth it.

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kolala's avatar kolala 1 week ago

Bonus reason: some blinkies and stuff are just cute ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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pixelglade's avatar pixelglade 1 week ago

Agreed with Koala. Before I came out as trans, I didn't self-identify very much as anything online, in fact I preferred to hide it. But even coming against prejudice about being trans from even my own family and facing random abuse in public and online, self-identifying works as both indicating to others that I'm "in the know (e.g. about pronouns, etc)"/ am safe, and also practically works as a filter.

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pixelglade's avatar pixelglade 1 week ago

Also, I've poked around on the old web on archives of geocities and others, there was quite a lot of self-identification especially in the LGBTQ community, much as there still is today. I haven't looked at other communities but I suspect your observation on race, nationality, etc, are the same. When there's so much information online, choosing who to follow or spend time with is important, labels help with that

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ghostscape's avatar ghostscape 6 days ago

i think my thoughts are not comment-sized but: this topic is super interesting, your thoughts reflect a lot of my own feelings, and also the current comments are spot-on too. how I've felt about online labels over the years has maaassively changed and part of that is to do with the kind of privileges I have changing

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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 6 days ago

@kolala Thanks for the perspective. Yeah, I think that different sites with different purposes use labels differently. For myself, I've had experiences where I thought I was a good ally and ended up causing harm, so I don't see myself as an expert on whether or not I'm a "safe" person. If someone is wondering if I am safe to approach, I would recommend that they read around my site a bit and decide for themselves.

emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 6 days ago

@pixelglade Several years ago, I got harrassed on the bus by someone claiming that they "couldn't tell" "what" I am. Shortly afterwards, I got some pride pins to put on my bag so nobody could claim to be confused about it and to take up space as a queer person. So I get that as a reason to self-label online. But to me there's a thin line between creating a community and creating an echo chamber in online spaces...

emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 6 days ago

...and that's the part that I'm still trying to figure out. I was not connected to the LGBTQ+ community in my early internet days, so I did not see the self-labeling happening there. My guess is that the practice started in small communities connecting around their identities and get got more mainstreamed over the years.

Another blog I follow also got a typewriter recently for seemingly similar reasons (as far as I can tell). They didn't use alt text unfortunately but they took a photo of the page they wrote for a blog post: https://jamesg.blog/2025/10/19/growth
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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 1 week ago

Ooh, thanks for this! You can kind of see the starry-eyed wonder that typewriters invoke. I have so far decided not to post images of my typewriting because it would require both high-res images and lots of alt text. But maybe I will one day with short bits of text.

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pixelglade's avatar pixelglade 1 week ago

It might be possible to simplify the process of converting full-length pages of typewriter text to alt text using OCR like tesseract or something else, but even in that case, smaller segments will probably be easier. Personally I'd like to see an example of the text your typewriter produces, out of curiosity for how the letterforms look

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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 6 days ago

My experiments so far with OCR have not worked out well. You'd think it would be easy for a computer to render typewriting into text, but the program I was using actually couldn't parse several of the letters. I will consider uploading some examples of text, though. Thanks for the suggesion!

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If everyone removed their social location labels from their site (nationality, race, age, gender, disability, etc.) would you browse Neocities differently? Would your own website be different? Just trying to think through the usefulness and limits of labels.
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nohappynonsense's avatar nohappynonsense 1 week ago

i was thinking lately i should update my about section, but when i just checked it i realized it is as bare bones as i'd like it to be while still existing and providing some navigation. i think labels are good for new visitors, to sort of orient themselves in a general direction of the author, but ultimately the writing/content of the site is where we truly learn about who's behind the html

barndoors's avatar barndoors 1 week ago

I'd judge way less while browsing. age range is the only stat I look for. no one does media queries here but you can't hate on a 14 yo's first chatgpt-less build

maxcrunch's avatar maxcrunch 1 week ago

self categorization is really important for me and I do self labeling as a way to get to know myself. sometimes you self label and then find out you're wrong. it's a harder question to answer for other people. for websites, I'm more into the style of expression than the actual person. although there are some people I followed only because they're only

maxcrunch's avatar maxcrunch 1 week ago

over 40* lol

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ghostscape's avatar ghostscape 1 week ago

I don't usually go looking for those tbh: it's useful to know gender if I'm going to refer to someone (even if just to myself) but I don't think I know the rest about most of you unless it comes up organically

ghostscape's avatar ghostscape 1 week ago

but then I am very into small-web anonymity. I've had enough of labels and minutely detailed self-branding as the cost of entry to a lot of social media and online spaces

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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 1 week ago

Thanks for your responses @nohappynonsense @barndoors @maxcrunch @ghoatscape! I started typing my reply and realized that it was going to be way longer than a Neocities comment will allow, so I will try to put up a page on my site and link it here today or tomorrow. I appreciate all your perspectives.

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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 2 weeks ago

I added some extracts from my journals. I don't know how you'll feel about it, but this is my favorite page that I've uploaded in a long time.

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maxcrunch's avatar maxcrunch 2 weeks ago

I love this, thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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nohappynonsense's avatar nohappynonsense 2 weeks ago

this is like a cheat code to skip out on my own notebook practice and just get all the good stuff from yours

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heya, just want you to know that canada post is on strike ): i haven't forgotten!!!
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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 3 weeks ago

No worries! I hope it gets resolved soon!

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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 3 weeks ago

Wrote a silly little essay about owning a typewriter.

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skep's avatar skep 3 weeks ago

You ought to have written it on a typewriter and posted pictures of the pages. And then typed it all out again on the computer for the alt text.

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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 3 weeks ago

@Skep you act as if this idea had not crossed my mind. But I don't hate myself quiiiiite that much.

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sorbier's avatar sorbier 3 weeks ago

thanks for this essay, i know you said you don’t romanticise the typewriter yet it’s still so cozy to think about drafting at that pace. bouncing ball imagery makes me think of pianists, i’m sure an obvious comparison — they way they strike the keys so purposefully and precisely

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ghostscape's avatar ghostscape 3 weeks ago

ooh I've been pondering getting a typewriter recently, a decent one has popped up for sale near me. this isn't helping dissaude me 👀

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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 3 weeks ago

@sorbier I was thinking about including the piano as a comparison because I imagine the mechanics are very similar to a typewriter. But I've never played piano so I didn't know if the feel would be similar.

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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 3 weeks ago

@ghostscape I feel like I have been forthcoming as possible about how much of a pain in the butt typewriters are, so if this didn't dissuade you, nothing will.

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ghostscape's avatar ghostscape 3 weeks ago

i am really curious about it as a physical experience (among other things). i used to play piano and i assume i'll be needing to rebuild those finger muscles

emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 3 weeks ago

You'll probably have a head start because you used to play piano, but yes, finger strength is definitely necessary!

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pixelglade's avatar pixelglade 3 weeks ago

This was fascinating. I understand to some extent the forearm pain. Using braille input on a normal qwerty keyboard involves pushing multiple keys down at the same time in a sort of rhythm and I get pain after doing it for awhile. A Perkins brailler is much like a typewriter in design - I've never used one but it's a fascinating piece of machinery if you want to look up about it.

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hlomen's avatar hlomen 3 weeks ago

I really enjoyed reading this one, thanks!

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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 3 weeks ago

@pixelglade Wow, that's so interesting. My workplace has a braille printer, but I had no idea that a typewriter for braille existed!

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maxcrunch's avatar maxcrunch 1 month ago

I've always wanted to take a dance class! but I have such poor brain body coordination, like I know what I'm supposed to do and I know when the rhythm happens but my body just is not doing what I want it to do 🥲 I feel like dance class might help but also be very embarrassing at first! still. would be fun.

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maxcrunch's avatar maxcrunch 1 month ago

I also recommend On Being podcast if you can find episodes. it's not running anymore but the archives are incredibly beautiful. each episode goes over a topic and the host discusses with various folks their views on life and philosophy.

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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 1 month ago

I am the same re: brain/body coordination. I don't have a strong sense of left or right. I'm not ambidextrous, but I'm neither truly left nor right-handed. I would not do well with partner or performance dance, but here I am not worried about doing steps a correct way, but exploring movement with my body as a whole. There's also a lot of value in learning things that we are not naturally talented at.

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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 1 month ago

Yes, I love On Being. I haven't listened to it recently but have enjoyed many episodes.

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skep's avatar skep 1 month ago

I briefly mentioned last time I wrote you that I started taking a dance class. Still doing it! I still have no sense of rhythm but everybody has been very welcoming. Like it's just an excuse to get moving and laugh at ourselves.

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emilynhoward's avatar emilynhoward 1 month ago

@Skep Ooh yeah, I forgot to ask how the dance class was going. I'm glad it's working out. Laughing at oneself is key, I think.

Added another Steven Universe Future episode and also a short essay I started on a while ago and decided to get out of my drafts.
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