Ah I'm sorry my wording and insinuation were both very poor...but something I realized is that I have never judged other people for talking about serious subjects while having a more feminine or youthful aesthetic (my word was "cutesy"), so this is really a very silly insecurity on my part. However I do realize I probably hurt feelings a bit by externalizing that so I'm sorry...I don't have ill feelings towards yall
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Also I really like the appearance of my blog as a cutesy journal book but part of me is like...is this REALLY where I want to put my serious thoughts about, like, misogyny or whatever? In the middle of a bunch of clutter by a music player and "here's what I've been watching :3" status bar? Really?
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acetaminophriends
2 weeks ago
Music player could possibly work if the rest of the page wasn't as scrap-booky possibly. It might be a better idea to apply that kind of aesthetic to the photo galleries or cookbook
acetaminophriends
2 weeks ago
Oh and reminder to self to take that cucumber salad recipe down. Folks, there's 2000 ways to make cucumber salad that one is not one of them.
acetaminophriends
2 weeks ago
Also sort of want a bit of a retro file system theme. I think it could work with serious topics it just needs to be more coherent and less busy I think.
babywormcore
2 weeks ago
My blog is, cute =/= not able to tackle serious stuff. Like, idk, the idea that a cutesy aesthetic can't discuss discrimination or serious subjects seems rooted in the same misogyny you're talking about addressing?
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oopsiedoodle
2 weeks ago
Yeah, I mean I'm going to talk about whatever I want on my blog regardless of how cute my site looks.
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I'm starting to think putting the posts on separate pages like a normal fucking blog would have been a better idea than making it one long continuous scroll page...
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I binged Petscop in two days and then proceeded to have a nightmare about it, from which I woke suddenly scared as fuck thanks to my cat kicking me hard as felinely possible.
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acetaminophriends
1 month ago
I had more nightmares last night but not even petscop themed, just simply because of the aura of fear lingering. I'm such a baby lol
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The first step to conquer the battle for attention is to stop participating. I don't mean that you shouldn't hone your craft to make it more interesting, but if you're just trying to find more places to wedge in attention bait you've lost sight of what makes what you're doing important and need to go back to the drawing board.
I'm not sure where you're getting "I can fix him" vibes from the movie Obsession. Neither of them appear to be trying to fix the other.
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I should have a shrine to my hair, harry the very hairy hair a hair on my arm which has reached an inch in length. I want to measure it precisely but I'd have to tape it down and I'm afraid of accidentally pulling it out that way.
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I was exposed to a lot of those movies where right before a couple divorces bc the man wasn't doing shit he would find god and the marriage would be revived--and I fully believe this trope exists not to be an ideal for men but propaganda for women. Actually I think all of these movies were made by one fucking studio but redacted and redacted in my family eat em' up like they're smut
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acetaminophriends
1 month ago
I'll elaborate later on my blog but there's not much else to say tbh. Christian ideals as an extension of misogyny blah blah blah
acetaminophriends
1 month ago
And despite anyone's intentions, I don't know who said this but I've heard this quote, "the purpose of a system is what it does"
acetaminophriends
1 month ago
I do not really want to have to read about systems theory just to be sure I'm using a quote right in my blog posting about religious trauma but fine I guess
babywormcore
1 month ago
As a queer person, the whole cishet romance genre seems to be 'what if a man was emotionally available' and it lowkey distresses me.
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acetaminophriends
1 month ago
Like I was gonna say--the message essentially boils down to "you should keep waiting because he's just a lost sad man that needs to find his way to christ and you" and the secular version of that is "you can and should fix him because he's just a sad lost man and he needs to find his way to you" like either way it's keeping women in this submissive state of complacency.
acetaminophriends
1 month ago
I would love to see the "I can fix them" mentality explored as a toxic trait or tragedy rather than idealistic romance. The only stories I can think of that do this are my own, godbless
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I will still be changing my blog theme for other reasons (tired of it, changing aesthetic tastes, concern about distracting elements) and there are definitely merits to i dunno like caring about polished web design but all approaches to building a website have their own charm and purpose, and I just wanted to respond so yall don't feel like I'm ignoring you or disagree...
Really really embarrassing thing to say on neocities dot com...ah.
I think you're on the leg of an intellectual journey that is likely to yield some helpful insights for you.