I am just putting this out there for those of you generous enough to follow... I am bigender. I do not exclusively feel I am male or female, but the labels "non-binary" and "agender" don't seem to fit either. I have known this since I was 14, and went through a period of identifying as transfeminine. Unfortunately, hospital staff and others were so transphobic that I began to repress any trace of this..
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As a Christian (although I draw from/respect many other faiths as well), it is difficult for me to express this. But, I feel phrases like "God makes no mistake," or "God made me male" are unfortunately reductionist. Yes, God made no mistakes when making me, but I truly believe he made me who I am - both male and female. I apologize for sharing such personal information, but I respect my audience.
tl;dr - my preferred pronouns are *any pronouns* but I am not shy about the fact that I am AMAB. I know I am "male" by the strictest definition, but also wish that people would recognize there is more depth than that.
The reason why I don't bring this up in normal conversations is, 1.) I don't believe the average person would understand and 2.) by living my lifestyle, I believe I am actively bending gender norms, and I think that's awesome. A man (or a woman) can have a ton of internal diversity and fluidity, and be more complex than a flat stereotype. And I think that's also valuable and awesome, and people will see that.
tl;dr - You can be a man or a woman, or both or neither I guess, and people may not explicitly acknowledge that. But it is no less valid. And what is unspoken, but tacitly understood, often has far more power than what is discussed