on ur question: i grew up with traditions similar to Santa Claus for our New Years celebrations and to be honest i remember very fondly both the magic from the lie about a Santa-like figure and the process of figuring out that it was actually a holiday lie. there was something very exciting in testing the limits of the lie and organizing traps or tricks to try to catch "Santa" or my parents in the action
hey August!! thank u sm for the insight! i did love santa as a child but i did not love learning the truth as much XD other children accusing my parents of lying to me?? preposterous... but my parents actually lying to me fr?? damn... so yeah XD love it in theory but i'm not so sure i'd be comfortable lying to my kids like that!
i can definitely understand that X_) idk if you also relate but it took me a long time to figure out my parents were lying and realizing they're capable of that was very unnerving! other kids seemed to catch on quicker and i was defending them like "my parents would never!!" only to realize the Truth :))
the question is really interesting i never thought about it!! i actually remember feeling pretty sad and a little betrayed when i found out that santa wasn't real, AND i realized i don't have any memories at all from when i still belived it LOL so i guess the lie wasn't really worth it for me since i only got the bad memories...
i don't really see the lie as necessary honestly, kids are gonna be excited for christmas anyway so maybe i would try not to lie... hope other parents wouldnt kill me when my kids say that santa isnt real LOL
if i were to have kids, id calmly explain where the tradition comes from. One of main reasons why i don't like it being a lie is due to knowing many people grow up poor or with parents who don't care and not quite knowing why mysterious Santa keeps gifting everyone generously but them!
i think its sweet to let children know the truth and it's also a good way to show them you trust them . Children still grow up with sense of wonder in the world , because there's a lot of things that are fascinating by themselves and do not really require lying to feel magical! โค๏ธ
One thing i do like is letter writing to Santa though, because tradition of physical letter-writing is kind of dissapearing (even though its really beautiful, meaningful and fun!). I wonder if there would be a way to keep this aspect in some way without Santa being real though....
yes to both august and lydels on the feeling of betrayal upon finding out... i was indeed a big defender of my parents only telling me the truth :') but also agree with lydels saying hope other parents don't kill me.... thank u sm for answering my question!!
also thank you avrum for the insight, i hadn't really thought about the implications of growing up poor/neglected and seeing other kids get "better" presents from Santa... yeah no that sucks and I don't want that for anyone. I do agree on the letter writing, and I think it could be part of keeping the tradition alive in the "playing pretend" sense, which kids already do all the time and fully consider as magical <3
on ur question: i grew up with traditions similar to Santa Claus for our New Years celebrations and to be honest i remember very fondly both the magic from the lie about a Santa-like figure and the process of figuring out that it was actually a holiday lie. there was something very exciting in testing the limits of the lie and organizing traps or tricks to try to catch "Santa" or my parents in the action
despite that, i'm not really sure i'd feel comfortable straight up lying to children about it if i were to have my own !
hey August!! thank u sm for the insight! i did love santa as a child but i did not love learning the truth as much XD other children accusing my parents of lying to me?? preposterous... but my parents actually lying to me fr?? damn... so yeah XD love it in theory but i'm not so sure i'd be comfortable lying to my kids like that!
i can definitely understand that X_) idk if you also relate but it took me a long time to figure out my parents were lying and realizing they're capable of that was very unnerving! other kids seemed to catch on quicker and i was defending them like "my parents would never!!" only to realize the Truth :))
the question is really interesting i never thought about it!! i actually remember feeling pretty sad and a little betrayed when i found out that santa wasn't real, AND i realized i don't have any memories at all from when i still belived it LOL so i guess the lie wasn't really worth it for me since i only got the bad memories...
i don't really see the lie as necessary honestly, kids are gonna be excited for christmas anyway so maybe i would try not to lie... hope other parents wouldnt kill me when my kids say that santa isnt real LOL
if i were to have kids, id calmly explain where the tradition comes from. One of main reasons why i don't like it being a lie is due to knowing many people grow up poor or with parents who don't care and not quite knowing why mysterious Santa keeps gifting everyone generously but them!
i think its sweet to let children know the truth and it's also a good way to show them you trust them . Children still grow up with sense of wonder in the world , because there's a lot of things that are fascinating by themselves and do not really require lying to feel magical! โค๏ธ
One thing i do like is letter writing to Santa though, because tradition of physical letter-writing is kind of dissapearing (even though its really beautiful, meaningful and fun!). I wonder if there would be a way to keep this aspect in some way without Santa being real though....
yes to both august and lydels on the feeling of betrayal upon finding out... i was indeed a big defender of my parents only telling me the truth :') but also agree with lydels saying hope other parents don't kill me.... thank u sm for answering my question!!
also thank you avrum for the insight, i hadn't really thought about the implications of growing up poor/neglected and seeing other kids get "better" presents from Santa... yeah no that sucks and I don't want that for anyone. I do agree on the letter writing, and I think it could be part of keeping the tradition alive in the "playing pretend" sense, which kids already do all the time and fully consider as magical <3